Saving Significant Others Everywhere

(Because Thoughtful Shouldn’t Be This Hard)

Let’s be honest: we know we can be tough to please. We want our spouses and significant others to “just know” what we like without having to spell it out—and sometimes, even when they get close, it still misses the mark. 

Cue two people feeling disappointed: our sweet significant other because the thoughtful effort didn’t land (and it feels like a test they failed), and us, because we wish it had landed. 

Cue the guilt when we feel like a jerk who can’t just be grateful. 

That’s not anyone’s fault—it’s human. But it’s also where HeyDay comes in.

Flowers: A Case Study in Thoughtfulness

Take flowers, for example. My husband is wonderful about bringing them home, but his taste is… let’s just say more colorful than mine. He’s beaming with pride when he hands them over, and I’m touched by the thought. But if the bouquet doesn’t appeal to me, apparently I can’t help it. My face gives it away. 

Here’s the thing: what feels like a miss could have been an easy win—if only he knew my preferences.

• I love mixed bouquets with variety.

• My favorite color is purple.

• Sunflowers? Hard pass.

• And please don’t splurge—I actually prefer a $15 Trader Joe’s grocery-store bundle to a $100 florist arrangement.

It’s the thought that counts, right? Well, the part that feels thoughtful is the part that says I know you, and I know what you love. 

Now, my mom? She’s the opposite from me. She adores extravagant roses, loves when someone goes all-out, and actually enjoys knowing money was spent on her. 

So, how can we make sure that our gestures demonstrate our thoughtful care. 

Right moment. Right gesture. Right person. 

How HeyDay Bridges the Gap

HeyDay captures the tiny but significant details so your sweetie doesn’t have to guess (and you don’t have to keep repeating yourself). So, for my sweet husband, HeyDay could help him remember:

Wife: “Pick up a mixed bouquet with purple—no sunflowers. Write a quick note like: Thinking of you on my way home. Thanks for calling Mom on her birthday.”

Mother-in-law: “Schedule a flower delivery with roses and lush blooms. Spend on the higher end of your budget—she’ll love it. Add a note like: You always make birthdays so special. I hope these flowers make you feel just as loved.”

Same gesture, two very different outcomes. With HeyDay, both land perfectly.

When Love Languages Don’t Match

It’s not just flowers. Sometimes the challenge is bigger: what if your love languages don’t line up?

Take my sister, Sally. She’s an acts of service woman. Pricey gifts actually stress her out. But her husband? He’s a romantic. For him, giving beautiful gifts feels thoughtful. He’s baffled when she doesn’t light up the way he imagined. She feels guilty for not wanting what he’s offering.

Sound familiar? HeyDay smooths this out too:

HeyDay Nudge: “Get Sally a generous coffee gift card—she loves her solo coffee time. Then, while she’s out, tackle a project she’s been waiting on (like finishing that bathroom trim).” Add a note like: Pick a day for yourself. I’ll handle the trim while you sip your latte.

It’s the perfect blend: he gets to give something, she gets the service she values, and both feel appreciated.